The solution to stress, anxiety and heartbreak is being conscious
It was hard to watch the news this week, to read about everything going on in the world. It was hard to stay connected, listening, and loving. It was hard to have a tender heart and an alive intelligence. Maybe it’s been like that for awhile for you. Maybe you, like me, have offered up money, time, energy, your voice… you’ve signed petitions, you’ve marched in marches… and it feels like all your activity is going nowhere. Occasionally you want to admit that no matter what you do, it all feels impotent. This can leave you feeling powerless and somewhat devastated.
But we can remember that we have a deeper, real power at our disposal. This power comes not from our actions, but from our awareness – the awareness of our dreaming.
Consider the dreams we have every night. We get emotionally hooked by the storyline of our dreams when we’re asleep and unaware that we’re dreaming. But if you happen to realize while dreaming that you are in fact in the middle of a dream, everything changes in an instant. Becoming conscious that you are dreaming means you are no longer at the mercy of your unconscious mind. The fear, anxiety, and the frustration no longer own the narrative. With such lucid dreaming, it is sometimes possible to then influence the direction of the dream’s storyline, but the true power is to simply recognize that you’re dreaming. If this little miracle happens to you, your dreams become conscious – connected to your heart, instead of your unconscious mind – and will often suddenly turn playful or insightful.
What we don’t realize is that most people live much of their waking life in a dream as well. It is a daytime dream of separation.
When you are having a bad dream at night, the stories and emotions running through your head are caught up in your dream and are unaware that you are safe and sound in bed. Likewise, the heartache expressing in you right now is caught up in the violence and pain playing out in the world, feeling like “safe and sound” is a million miles away.
I want to suggest that you can learn to recognize that you are dreaming – not while you’re sleeping, but in your waking life. It’s actually really simple. It is your nature to be aware, and you can move your awareness from the terrors in your news feed, and come inside your own mind and body. Become conscious of the injustice and betrayal that is insistent and chronically expressing in your system when triggered by these external events. Become aware of the resistance and the fight echoing inside your skin. Become aware that these are feelings of separation. They are parts of ourselves that don’t yet know they are always connected to a vast resource of support, love, and safety – a resource that is very alive in the present moment.
We can be aware of these story lines, mental loops, and emotions, while still knowing that we are not actually isolated from support and safety and love. The separation is the illusion, the dream. To become aware that you are dreaming gives you power to reconnect those disconnected parts. That is the power of being conscious, really conscious, in this moment.
In the internal noticing of the story, those parts in ourselves that feel helpless, powerless, and impotent can be connected to the fact that there is something in the deeper dimension of the present moment that is much more harmonious, present, and throbbing with connection. The secret here is really in just noticing all that. That which feels so certainly separate from solution, support – the insistent, captivating, and disheartening illusions on chronic replay in your system – can be brought right back into love, into healing, with this one act. Ironically, this doesn’t mean any action on your part; it is the simple power of being totally conscious.
When we don’t let our fear, anxiety, and injustice fight through the day, when you are not indulging, acting, dreaming, controlling the moment, we actually have much more power. When we come inside to the insistent habit of injustice or betrayal, we can see the dream being cast. This is you dreaming. However, there is a deep eternal safety and love that is alive in this present moment. You can feel this directly, and you are never actually separate from that support and solution.
But then you ask me: “What about the children? What about the war? What about _____?” I ask you to look inside and notice: is this your personal injustice playing out? Can you notice that internal reality, instead of focusing on the external? And can you see what your own insistent fear, betrayal, and injustice have given you? Do you know what your own system, awash in love and support, has given you?
Only when you are awash in that love is it possible to have waking dreams of justice and harmony. Only from a deep well of justice can you mirror external justice. Only from a profound wholeness can you manifest that wholeness.
Our disconnection is not a power place. Only our connection can mirror back to us that black lives matter, that children are safe, that education is important, and healthcare is affordable, accessible, excellent. That we have infinite resource. That we can feed and energize a whole planet with intelligence underfoot. That there are no illegal humans; all humans all belong.
When you are deeply connected to your birthright of eternal love and resource and non-separateness, you become a very powerful dreamer. You can turn the injustice you feel crushed against into contentedness, safety, and love. The real power to do this is inside ourselves, not outside ourselves.
The world is a dream, a mirror, reflecting our chronic sense of injustice back to us. You can insist on your injustice and keep the mirror, your dream, just as it is… or you can bring love and healing to all these parts of yourself that have yet to know the immense resource at your disposal. You can be powerful. When you can connect to love and resource inside, this in itself starts a new dream, and only this can truly dream of peace. The realness of this deeper aliveness is overwhelmingly full of solution, and can make miracles happen daily.
So the only question is, where are you insisting on your own injustice and heartbreak? Where are you dense and unavailable to the healing available to you? And are you willing to notice that this is you dreaming, and become conscious?
If inspired, come join us for a week of healing. Together we can find our power in the present moment, and watch a miracle happen.